You've got to want to.

You can go around with need to if you would like, but it won't work. All it will do is leave you frustrated and resentful in the end since you are doing things that you feel you need or must do.

You have got to want this.

I knew someone that needed to get married right out of highschool. And they did. Of course, they are are now a raging alcoholic, but they are married.

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